Wedding Planning – People Will Be Mean to You August 1, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Jobs and Work, Life Lessons/Growing Up, Real World, Wedding.
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Every movie you see, every reality show you watch, and everything everyone tells you makes you feel like once you’re a bride the world is all pink and fluffy and you have this impenetrable glow around you. The wedding industry is all about happiness, how can you not feel warm and cozy inside when you work with brides and grooms and you’re basically making their dreams come true? How can someone not be happy when they get to do that everyday? Well, the wedding industry gets the Oscar for best deception. I’m going to break it to you, and I’m going to break it to you hard; When you are getting married – people will be mean to you.
The Industry – Keep in mind that wedding venues, wedding cakes, wedding dresses, they are all part of an industry just like anything else. There are friendly accountants and there are rude accountants; you’ve meet really nice servers and really nasty servers; some doctors care about you and your feelings, some just care about getting you in and out the door. We have this perception that the wedding industry is somehow exempt from this kind of seesaw, but it’s a business like all other businesses. Not everyone who has a job loves it, and I know what you’re thinking, “how can you be miserable and you’re coordinating a freakin’ wedding!?”, but people are. They’re human. Most people will great you with smiles, handshakes and congratulations, but there are those who just want you to see the space, try the cake, have the meeting and then be on your way. Not everyone watches Four Weddings religiously, like you do.
The Pressure – People who are in the wedding industry deal with a lot. At any given point they are receiving multiple emails from multiple brides, phone calls and a thousand requests. They are only one person so they can only handle one thing at a time. A lot of these people just fold under the stress, so while they aren’t trying to be mean to you, personally, they’re probably just being mean to everyone that day. People who have been doing this a long time may also feel like they know better than you. When planning a wedding, it’s important you work with people who advise and guide but also hear your vision, and not try to force their opinions on you. We recently met a venue coordinator who was adamant that we get married in November, because it would be cooler out. We politely told her we had no desire or intention of getting married in November, and then reiterated our desired date. For the next twenty minutes we heard about how November would be a better choice (sorry, not everyone has hot flashes like you do, lady). When you do this day in and day out, it’s normal to have opinions, but people often forget that unsolicited advice can hurt your business, rather than help it and they end up just coming off pushy and mean.
The People – People suck. In general. You may wonder why certain individuals have certain jobs, think about the last time you had a grumpy hostess, or met a teacher who clearly didn’t tolerate children well, or even that time you called customer support because your internet went out and the guy on the other end seemed like he’d rather be eating dirty rather than helping you. People have jobs they don’t like all the time, and some people do like they’re jobs, they just don’t show it, they’re just not warm and fuzzy, people-persons. It does seem odd that someone who deals with people, brides, on a daily basis would be so annoyed with their job, but just like any other profession out there, it does happen.
You – Sometimes, people are going to be rude, because of you. No, you may not be a bridezilla, but maybe they feel like you’re making a decision that’s very out of the ordinary and could possibly hurt your wedding instead of making it amazing. Perhaps, what you’re asking of them isn’t possible, and instead of being flexible you’re being difficult. Humans can only be flowery and nice for so long before they, too, get annoyed. Sometimes, people are mean because of something you did, rather than some way you’re acting. We had been trying to get in contact with a venue event coordinator for a couple of weeks, we couldn’t reach her and hadn’t heard back, so we went to see the venue anyway. While there, we ran into an employee who asked us if he could direct us somewhere, so we explained our situation. He promptly found the contact we had been trying to reach and ushered us into her room. Unfortunately, for us, she was in the middle of a meeting and just as promptly as we were brought in, we were escorted out and told to sit in a chair and wait. The other couple in the meeting felt so uncomfortable they actually stepped out and congratulated us – it was a weird situation all around. This woman is obviously just poor at time management, it shouldn’t take two weeks to call someone back, and it should take more than five minutes to show someone a venue, but people have natural reactions to events that happen. To her, we were intruders, even though her co-worker was the one who made the mistake. Give people the benefit of the doubt every now and then.
Long story short – remember that weddings are, at the end of the day, a business too. Sure, they might be one of the more fun, interesting professions out there, but not everyone feels that way. Some people are tired, they’re old, they’re worn out, and some people just happen to have a bad attitude no matter what they do. The best advice is to be you, stick up for yourself but also don’t let other people ruin your experience. Aren’t you the happiest you’ve ever been? Good! Channel that often and always and any mean, inconsiderate, vendors will just roll off you like little beads of rain!
The Evolving Marketer – Take II July 26, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in 21st Century/Technology, Education, Following Your Dreams, Jobs and Work.
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I don’t often post content that isn’t fresh and original on DLIH, but I recently wrote this post for my professional blog and while writing it thought, “Hey, this is totally relevant!”. DLIH is all about improving yourself, being your best you, and continuously evolving and growing. Professionally speaking, it’s a real reality check to find yourself behind the trend or technology and personally, I always want to be learning something new! So, with out further ado, The Evolving Marketer.
There are many of us who don’t remember life before Facebook; even more so, those of us who often find ourselves reminiscing about that mysterious Tom on MySpace. It’s no secret that the world of social media has not only evolved over the last fifteen years, but it has exploded. In fact, technology itself has taken over the mediums we once knew as “media” and formed into an animal all its own. Newspaper subscriptions are now online editions, YouTube has created hosts, singers, makeup artists and comedians, and the ways in which we communicate with one another are not just through written word anymore, but through a variety of virtual vocabularies.
In 2008, I was in my social media prime. There were so many social media positions available and I was exactly what they were looking for, young, knowledgable and grew up with this booming technology. I could set up a Facebook note, I could schedule a post, I could make your blog look like you paid me twice as much to do it. I had gotten my first social media marketing gig and while I was nailing the Facebook growth, there was this website called Twitter, which alluded me, so, in an effort to better understand how this 140 character blab fest could be used to sell our products, I set up my own account and played around. What I learned, very quickly, was that Twitter wasn’t a place for teenagers to mindlessly jibber-jabber, and it also wasn’t a place to sell – it was a platform on which to build community.
Community can mean many things in the marketplace; it means brand loyalty, introducing your customers to new and exciting parts of your company and reminding them why your products are stunning. It’s advertising to people in innovative ways, because the twitter-word travels lightening fast, the second you use the right quote or hashtag the right term, you can find yourself talking to an audience you may have never thought you could reach through conventional methods. Twitter also creates support, it not only lets consumers interact with companies directly and get their questions and concerns answered, but it allows fans to speak to one another, sharing their praises and also finding solutions, in turn growing the brand’s presence without them evening trying.
Over the years, my jobs have evolved, my experience has grown, and what I didn’t notice, until recently, was that the social media world was changing too. As a marketing professional, it’s important to continue your education, but also keep your skill set up to date. That once social media savvy twenty-year old was now a late-twenties marketer who didn’t know what an “Earlybird” filter was. What you forget, as you get older and more experienced is that there is always someone younger and quicker than you. You’ve got to dust off those keyboards and downloaded those apps to make sure you’re always offering clients the best possible outcome, the widest wingspan for their message, and the highest level of results!
The reason I love marketing and live events is that they are unpredictable and ever-changing, they remind you to stay on your toes and be ready to jump at a moment’s notice. Yet, as marketers, we forget that with this exciting and dynamic profession comes our own responsibility to be able to evolve with the trends, and always have a hunger to learn. One day, we won’t recall what we did before Instagram, we’ll fondly remember using USB’s instead of our clouds, and perhaps Xerox flyers will be a thing of the past. Technology has allowed us to find communities and consumers we would have never otherwise had the chance to connect with, it’s like Willy Wonka for social media buffs – any audience you can think of, you can find. Let’s go out there and spread the word!
Here Comes The Stress July 20, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Following Your Dreams, Life Lessons/Growing Up, Real World, Relationships, Wedding.
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A little over three weeks ago I made a solemn DLIH promise to be more active, post more articles, and long story short, just be better. Then I went on two back-to-back vacations and, oh yeah, got a little ring to wear on my left hand. Traveling has never stopped me from posting before, so being overseas wasn’t necessarily the issue. The problem arose when all my “free” time was now suddenly filled with wedding ideas and planning. Let me just say, I’ve watched a lot of TLC and WE in my day so I was full prepared to not be a Bridezilla and not let this wedding take over my life, I also didn’t want DLIH to become wedding central. So, with my mind on a wedding and a wedding on my mind, you can imagine all other ideas involving life and writing were few and far between.
Then something occurred to me, talking about my wedding, or any wedding, does not mean writing a nine paragraph post on how to make a doily or pick out candle wax colors. What I am realizing is that I am feeling very alone in this process, this process that has been glorified by so many people before me. In all my searches online I have found all the standard advice “Take deep breaths”, “Don’t make rash decisions”, “Do what you want to do, not what your guests want”, but I haven’t found any real advice. No one told me that getting married involves hours and hours of research, you write countless e-mails and make a series of phone calls to no avail. Half the time you have to follow-up, you get a voicemail system, or you just don’t hear the answers you want. It’s a part-time job, sometimes a full-time job, and while the end result is worth it, no one really tells you how much of your life it’s going to consumer.
I always thought I’d be that bride that was cool, calm and collected. A. I’m not spending $80,000, B. I do events for a living, this should all be second nature to me and C. I am more organized that The Container Store, yet I’ve spent more time freaking out and crying then planning and I haven’t been engaged a month yet. I never thought it would be this hard, because I didn’t know. So, I figured, there have got to be other brides out there, or girls, or guys, who really don’t know anything about weddings, just like me. My parents did not have a big wedding, I don’t have older siblings, and I’m the first out of my bridal party to be having a wedding. You can read all the articles you want, but no one is going to know how it feels expect the person the process.
I’m learning a lot, and to not share your knowledge with those who need it is just mean! I can’t say I have a lot of wisdom to impart quite yet, but I have learned one very valuable thing. When you get engaged, everyone is around to celebrate with you, and scream and shout, and cry with you. However, when you start planning, everyone is looking to you for answers, they are asking you questions and giving opinions and it can be incredibly overwhelming. Planning this has made me feel like it’s my fiancé and I against the entire world, it’s has only reaffirmed that this is the person I want to marry and spend the rest of my life with and this wedding, these napkin choices, are going to be small blemishes on the obstacles we will face in life.
The first piece of advice I would give is this: A wedding should bring you closer, it should make you happy to sleep side by side that person every night. Even when you feel like your efforts are hopeless, there is a second person in it with you, no matter what. Even if you have to get married in a paper bag next to a muddy creak, it shouldn’t matter, because they will be there, making sure that it’s the best paper bag in the world.
Repost: Make Work Life Work For You! July 1, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Jobs and Work, Life Lessons/Growing Up, Real World.
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Several months ago, I stumbled upon this great article by some “googlers” on what they learned working at, the famous, Google. As I read, I realized this wasn’t about Google, not really, it was about anyone’s professional life in the office and how to succeed. When stripped down, the message was about how to be successful, make good choices, be brave and make your work life work for you! As someone who is in the process of looking for that perfect job, it inspired me and I knew it would inspire others too!
I Do Not Have a White Picket Fence Family June 28, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Family, Life Lessons/Growing Up, Relationships.
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You know when you’re driving down the highway and you see a mini-van pass with those little family stick figures on the back window? Some have Mickey Mouse ears, others include pets, and then there are the cars that illustrate seven children and make you think “Ohjeez!”. I think it’s easy for us to believe what we see on TV, families who are large, and loving and perfect, or even families who are large and dysfunctional and imperfect. Whether it’s a happily married couple with five adopted children, or a recovering alcoholic single-mom and her son trying to make ends-meat, there is always an underlying lesson of “family is everything”. All these shows we watch, reality or scripted, they all end with the same theme, no matter what happens your family will be there for you, unconditionally and always.
However, I don’t have a family like that, and I know I’m not the only one. My father isn’t in jail, my brother isn’t on drugs, no one is verbally abusing me, or kicked me out of the house at sixteen, there is nothing over the top wrong with my family or it’s members, I just don’t have the kind of family you can always count on when times are tough. I didn’t grow up in a trailer park, or had a mom who had to work five jobs to keep food on the table, I had a very normal, great, middle class childhood. For many of us, not having this strong, dynamic, close-knit family is not a product of something that happened or didn’t happen, it’s just how our lives panned out. (more…)
Love is in the Air! June 27, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Causes.
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Love, love, love, love that logging into Doing Laundry in Heels this evening, which is powered by WordPress, I saw this amazing banner! I could not let it go unmentioned!
Fill the world with love and joy everyone!
Where’s My Time?! June 24, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Jobs and Work, Life Lessons/Growing Up.
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If you visit DLIH often, you may have noticed a significant drop in posts as of late. There are two main excuses for this, number being I’m sorry and I’m lame. Number two, I have no time.
When I first left my 9-5 (back in April) I remember feeling a great sense of relief. There is something very magical about suddenly having complete control of your schedule. That doesn’t mean I wake up at noon and pour myself an entire bowl of ice cream before sitting on the couch until 4pm, but it does allow for more flexibility in terms of getting things done. When you work a standard 9-5, Monday through Friday, you’ve got two days to get everything you’ve been putting off completed; laundry, shopping, responding to several e-mails, picking up the dry cleaning, getting more dog food, working out. So you leave one day for couch sitting and friend seeing and the other day is one giant chore. So, when you have a day off here and there, and only work half a day on this day, you’ve got more time to spread things out while still making money.
The first month or so was incredible. I felt like I was just getting things done all over the place! I told all my friends about this new-found freedom I had for doing the dishes and cleaning my kitchen. Then May hit, between long work weeks, a family trip, arranging future travel and other responsibilities, time seemed like the one thing I never had! Which bears the question – is flexibility really better? (more…)
We Almost Missed Our Own Birthday! June 23, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Uncategorized.
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Happy, Happy, Happy 5th Birthday to
DOING LAUNDRY IN HEELS!
We can’t believe it’s been 5 years, even in our ups and downs we so appreciate all our fans, supporters and readers!!
Now, let’s have some cake!
What is that Twenty-Somethings Really Want?! May 22, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Apartment Life, Dating, Family, Finances, Friendships, Life Lessons/Growing Up, Real World, Relationships, Traveling.
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This article really resonated with me, and everything I have felt at one point or another. Take a read, and remember that you’re not the only one out there who wants the simply things – like a couch that’s not from Ikea (that you probably failed to put together…twice).
Work has been crazy over in DLIH land! But I promise, new posts, insightful articles, and more randomness coming very, very soon!!!
Simply Your Life! May 8, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in 21st Century/Technology, Health and Fitness, Life Lessons/Growing Up, Real World.
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10 ways to simply your life! An amazing story that can motivate, educate and inspire us all to tone down our lives and enjoy them so much more!