Where in the World is DLIH…Round 3! February 27, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Traveling, Where in the World is DLIH.
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Because we haven’t been around the world enough quite yet, we’re taken the blog on the road AGAIN! Where are we now?
Check us out in Baltimore…and a million airplanes later in Zurich…and finally, Florence! Ciao!
Boxed Into Your Job February 24, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Finances, Following Your Dreams, How To, Jobs and Work, Life Lessons/Growing Up, Real World.
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I DO NOT DO SALES. It’s like I need to tattoo it onto my forehead for people to hear me clearly. I’ve done sales once or twice in my life, I’ve been fairly good at it, so that’s all people hear, that’s all they see, that’s all I am to them.What am I really? I am a human being with ambition. I am a person who wants to be constantly challenged and if I’m giving the chance, I’ll prove that i can be trusted, and that I can exceed people’s expectations. What I am not is a one trick pony. What I am not is a person who can only be good at one thing.
Do you ever feel like all your boss sees you as is what you are? For many of us, this is the case, whether it’s the profession we’ve chosen or the company we work for, we are only seen as the job we hold, we are only as good as our last day of work. There is this culture in American that if you work hard and long and always say yes, you’ll get a promotion and you’ll grow, however, for many jobs that’s just not true. If you’ve ever been labeled at your job, you understand. That new job opens up in a different department, and it’s something you know you’d just rock at, but when you apply your supervisors tell you that they’re really looking for someone with more specific experience, or that they are really happy with where you are now and a promotion in your division should open up soon. How are you supposed to respond to that? It’s both a compliment and in insult all at once. Better yet, the employers who do offer you a job, for something you did two years ago, because to them that is what you do. Despite how much you’ve grown as a person, despite your age, the place you are in your life, your expenses. Thanks for thinking I was good when we worked together 24 months ago, but now I’m even better, and I’m ready for something new! That internship was awesome when I was 22, I’m almost 25 now and I don’t want to be in the same office space as someone learning how to refill a stapler.
Hiring professionals will tell you to get some experience under your belt, do some volunteering, work for a non-profit, get a portfolio going by doing work for friends but this isn’t that kind of article. This is the kind of article that screams “I know! what the hell!”, this is the kind of article that gives the middle finger to all your past employers who felt you were good enough as you were and didn’t want to give you a chance. Sometimes, life isn’t about sitting down and looking at the bright side, it’s about getting a bottle of wine and whinnying about it.
However, there is always a time to look at the bigger picture, even if it’s not a bright one (…and maybe only after two glasses of wine). Let’s say you got that promotion, let’s say you took that job you wanted, would your boss be any different? Would they see you as someone who deserved it, would they acknowledge your talents? Sometimes what we don’t get is a sign of something we don’t need, everything happens for a reason even if at the times it never seems fair. The reward is greater with greater risk, so if there is something you really want out of life, keep working to get it, it won’t come easy, it will make you envious of others who seem to have everything you want, but when you finally get that dream job, everything you went through will be so worth it! Plus…you’ll have wine the entire time, so, it can’t be all bad, now can it.
Spa Day Saturday! February 21, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Beauty, Health and Fitness, Life Lessons/Growing Up, Women.
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One of my personal projects the last several months has been leading a more fulfilling life. Ultimately, this is a dream that’s unattainable, since we know life will never be perfect, but I want to be healthy emotionally and mentally, not just physically, which means finding time to do things that make me feel happy, even if they are small. I would call taking care of myself a luxury, because for years I’ve been preaching about taking care of yourself, I’ve been told that I need to make me my number one priority, but when you’re hustling and just trying to get by, it falls to the bottom of the to-do list.
Being a girl is also part of allowing yourself to be special. Sometimes, being healthy just means watching 13 Going on 30 while doing your nails, and not having anyone need you, judge you, or annoy you. So, late last year I created Spa Day Saturday. “Saturday” can be a Friday, it can be a Monday morning, it can be a Thursday afternoon, it doesn’t matter when you do it, as long as you allow yourself to do it and not let anything stand in the way of that.
Every Saturday morning I wake up, I make a coffee and I watch TV on the coach for a few hours while cuddling with my cat. I might make breakfast, I might not, depends on what I feel like. The point of the morning is no stress, no drama, no worries. Then I give myself a full spa day! I take a long hot shower, and be sure to scrub with my Simple Sugars, double condition my hair (or treat it if I’m feeling really ambitious), take care of anything else in the shower including shaving, or really sudsing up just because it’s fun. I don’t put myself on a timeline or try to be out by a certain time. I’ll also do my eyebrows this day, make sure they’re perfect, and do any face treatments that I have lying around. At some point I’ll also do my oil pulling (coconut oil! woot! woot!); typically I’ll do it while in the shower, but I’ll sometimes move it to after if I’m just not in the mood yet. I always feel super clean and invigorated after spa day, not only because it’s fun, and something to look forward to, but because it gets me ready for the week ahead with healthy, shining skin, hair, nails etc.
For fun twists – I’ll sometimes turn on music depending on my mood, or I may relocate to a different bathroom which gives it a super spa feel, since it’s not my day-to-day shower location. This is also a super fun time to use any samples you may have gotten from Sephora, friends, BrichBox etc. the most important thing to making spa day work is that you actually do it, I’m fortunate that I have Saturday mornings to myself, but on the off chance I don’t, or I have to move it to a different day due to scheduling, I make it clear that I am not to be bothered for a while, it’s my time to relax and beautify!
DLIH is Playing London Bridge! February 14, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Traveling, Where in the World is DLIH.
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Yes, it’s true, from Disneyland to Harry Potter; DLIH is a world traveler!
Our latest adventure has taken us to good ole LONDON, Cheers!
Why You Need a Vacation February 13, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in 21st Century/Technology, Cross Training for Life, Health and Fitness, Jobs and Work, Tips and Tricks, Traveling.
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Vacation; it’s something we can do without. It’s a luxury. It’s a self-indulgence. So, if we don’t take one for a couple of years, we’ll be fine. After all, that money should be going towards our savings, our student loans, our car payments, or just under our mattress for a rainy day, right? Wrong. Here’s why you should take a vacation at least once a year, and how to do it.
Science has shown that in men, a risk of a heart attack increases by 30% if they opt out of a vacation, that number increases to 50% in women. We hear that and we think, okay, that’s something I’ll worry about when I’m 40 and by then, I’ll have the finances to take a vacation annually…but what if you won’t? Will that be the never-ending excuse? Statistics also tell us that, not only do American’s receive less vacation days than most employees of other countries, but fewer and fewer Americans are using all their days. Perhaps there’s a feeling of guilt, being away from the job, perhaps our employers put that pressure on us, that idea that every e-mail needs to be answered, every phone call needs to be returned and there’s no good reason to abandon clients for a week while you’re sipping on mai-tais in the Bahamas. Just like a sprained ankle needs rest and healing, your mind and spirit need quiet time too. Today, it seems like you’re invincible, perfect skin, flawless hair, a work ethic for days and the energy of a small child but the truth is, if we don’t take a break every now and then we’re going to spiral out of control and soon that super hero ability will turn into exhaustion.
Taking a vacation does not mean going to your parents house and sitting on Facebook all day or simply taking days off but staying at home – vacation means a total change of pace, in all ways. Log off, shut down and take yourself off the grid. Do not check your work e-mail and make it clear that you won’t be available while you’re away. You don’t have to eliminate yourself from the world but rather than sitting by the pool and checking twitter leave the phone in the room and check it once a day if you want. Even being in your humble abode can causes stresses, the things that need to be cleaned or get things done, or even worse the stress of boredom which can result in binge watching TV or eating unhealthy. Get out of town!
Sure, vacation can be pricey and that’s what stops many people from taking them. Check for “off-season” deals. For example, the high season in places like Cancun starts in January, so check for flight and hotel deals in December. Much of this information is available on sites like Tripadvisor. Also, check alternate methods of travel, taking Amtrak is typically much less expensive than airfare and it can be part of your adventure! Bring friends, four people splitting the cost of a room, cab, and dinners is much better than one or two! You can also combine trips with other things you have planned, if you’re already going to your friend’s wedding in LA, come before or after and spend some additional time relaxing, you’ll be buying the airfare anyway! Use points and miles from previous travel to help alleviate costs.
Most importantly, don’t feel bad and don’t allow yourself to think about home while you’re away. Vacations don’t need to break the bank but if you’re spending the money, make sure you enjoy yourself and don’t come back even more anxious than you left. Vacations open your mind, they let you evaluate life and see things from afar once you’re removed from the situation. They can also help you make important life decisions that you may have been dwelling on for a while. Allow yourself to take a vacation, mentally, emotionally and physically. You’ll come back refreshed and happier!
It’s not fiction, it’s fact! For more studies and information on taking vacations read these great articles:
Why You Need To Take a Vacation Even When You Can’t Afford One: http://www.inc.com/kevin-daum/why-you-need-to-take-a-vacation-even-when-you-can-t-afford-one.html
Vanishing American Vacation: http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/vanishing-american-vacation
How to Be a Morning Person February 10, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in 21st Century/Technology, Apartment Life, Health and Fitness, How To, Life Lessons/Growing Up.
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“For many of us, mornings begin in a rushed panic. We allow our alarm clocks to buzz at least a dozen times before we decide we have to get out of bed. We then rush around our homes half-awake trying to get ready for our day. In a hurry, we stub our toe on the bedpost, forget to put on deodorant, and don’t pack a lunch because we simply do not have time.
It’s no wonder that so many folks despise the thought of being awake before 9 am!”
Forgetting deodorant? Check! Not packing lunch? Also check! Stubbing toe? Been there! Learn how to be a morning person, or at least a little bit happier in the AM! Read this awesome and uplifting article at MindBodyGreen!
Where in the World…? February 7, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Traveling, Where in the World is DLIH.
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It’s no secret DLIH will often pop up in the most random places! Where are we now?
Sunny Hollywood! Hello Los Angeles! And thank you, Mickey, for having us in your magical home!
Move On From The Friend Who Couldn’t Move with You February 4, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Friendships, Life Lessons/Growing Up, Moving, Relationships.
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I find that it’s the same old story – you meet new people, you make connections, before you know it you’re going out for drinks, getting together for birthdays, and telling them your deepest thoughts and fears. Then, you get a new job, you relocate, you go to school and the friends that promised you now and forever can’t even make time to send a two-line text. It’s really flabbergasting, and it’s not okay. Sometimes it’s scary to admit that you’re sad, sometimes it’s embarrassing to say that someone just simply didn’t want to be your friend for no good reason, but someone’s got to say it so others know that it’s not just them.
Many of our loyal readers know that DLIH relocated to Chicago over a year ago. Prior to this move, I wrote some of my favorite people an e-mail, explaining my decision to move, and thanking them for always being so supportive of me. In response to this e-mail I received a very heartfelt note about how sad and shocked one of my girlfriends was about my move, we weren’t the best of friends but we had become closer and I was equally as touched by her letter and sad that we wouldn’t be seeing each other regularly anymore. When I said goodbye, I cried and I hugged her and I never one thought we’d never talk again…but we really never did. Shortly after relocating, I texted her for some advice, and got a fairly normal but slightly short response. There were a couple of jokes shared between us, mostly me on the joking end and her simply answering “haha”, or “LOL”. Slowly, the responses stopped, and one night, when I found out she was thinking about coming to Chicago I sent a message telling her to let me know because I’d love to see her, but a nothing came of it. I realized that we weren’t friends, and we weren’t ever going to be again. And it really sucked. I felt betrayed for a very long time, and hurt, and angry. I didn’t do anything wrong, and she didn’t say or not say anything in particular, it just became very apparent that to her, I was out of sight, so I was also out of mind.
Some people can’t move with you, whether this is physical or metaphorical. People you spent everyday with in college are now nowhere to be found, maybe there’s an occasional, socially accepted Christmas card, or a rare “Like” on Facebook, but you’re lunch-together-everyday relationship faded into not speaking at all in a matter of months. There are a lot of people out there who are your friend when they need you, and then forget about you when they need someone else, they don’t do this intentionally, they don’t actually even realize what they’re doing but it’s hard to be on the receiving end of being forgotten.
It’s like they say men can’t multi-task, maybe there are people out there who can’t multi-friend; maybe there are individuals who are the greatest friend in the world when they can be, but they can only be that for one or two or three people, and not for many. So, what do we do? What do we do when we’re planning a birthday party, or a wedding, and we realize that there’s no one to help us, or we aren’t even sure who genuinely wants to show up? We move on. Hurt doesn’t go away, but life goes on, we build things for ourselves, we get a great job, we go to the gym and make sure we’re healthy and happy and most importantly, we wish no harm on those who forgot they needed to be our friend.
Hurt is justifiable and no one can take that away from you. No one can say that what others do to you is right, no one can tell you that their actions are okay or reasonable, but what you can do is learn to live your life in the moment and not dwell on the past. Know that some people are just bad friends, some people are only friends when they can be, and some people will be your friends forever, some may even come in and out of your life. We all have some slinky, bumpy path we’re on and if we meet just the right people they’ll hold your hand down that road, but what makes us who we are is often the journeys we take alone, so allow yourself to share those experiences but remember that you may need to learn some of them alone.
The Man Bouquet – Man Crates January 30, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Dating, Family, Holidays, Men, Review.
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Valentines Day, oh the glorified day of love, angels, cupid, chocolates, heart shaped everything and the corporate greed of candy companies! Whether you love it or hate it, don’t care about it or count down to the day, whether you’re alone or tied down, it’s a day of dressing to impress and giving gifts.
Women really get the short end of the stick when it comes to buying gifts. Men have jewelry and perfume to choose from, Godiva, puppies, flowers, flowers, flowers. It’s like a wack-a-mole of which present to buy first, when it comes to the ladies, besides a slinky piece of lingerie what do you get your man for Valentines Day?
DLIH discovered Man Crates this time last year for just this reason. Miss SK just got tired of the notion that Valentines Day was all about the girl, so after some digging and internet research Man Crates surfaced. They are pretty much perfect! Not just for V-Day but for any day; birthdays, anniversaries, congratulation presents, or even just because. There are different options, at different price points all themed around whatever your man likes best. Can’t decide? EVEN BETTER! He’ll probably love his first one so much you can get him another next year, or surprise him in a couple of years when he least expects it. They add new ones regularly so there’s no chance of him getting board.
Man Crates are what you think they are, a giant crates! What do guys love more than something they can tear into or break? It’s like a piñata of awesome goodies for your guy. They even have smaller crates that come in something other than – Ammo Can, Tactical Bag, or even just a regular shipping box full of jerky! To be honest, while the enter gift was unique, fun and a complete surprise, the thing DLIH man loved the best was the the Ammo Can, tries to use it for everything!
So, if you’re looking for a unique gift that isn’t simply a bacon scented bouquet of tools try Man Crates on for size. Fine print: order ahead for holidays, they get slammed and since they are a made in USofA business (support the locals!) they only use the best stuff, so give them a breather and don’t rush the creative process!
New Favorite Snack ALERT! January 27, 2015Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Cross Training for Life, Food/Dining, Health and Fitness, Review.
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On the rare, (or at times, not so rare) occasion, when hunger strikes but there’s nothing yummy in the fridge, I’ve turned to a snack that’s both exceptionally delicious and nutritious! My latest favorite in-between-meal-craze has become Granny Smith Apples and Blue Cheese.
In my opinion, the fresher the better, so I always buy organic apples and I’m a huge fan of Marzetti blue cheese dressing. It’s a higher quality than something that comes out of a bottle or arrives with your hot wings. It has a great balance of chunky blue cheese pieces to creamy dressing, so it’s ideal for dipping (I also use it for carrots…or really anything. I’d probably drink the stuff if I could).
I cut my apple into quarters, and then slice those up into thirds or quarters again. Pour some dressing into a shallow little bowl and I’m all set. The best part is I’ll often eat the apple right off of the cutting board, so it’s fast to make and easy to clean up! The sweet, sour apple plus the saltiness and creaminess of the blue cheese makes it an awesome sweet/savory!
I usually pair it with a green tea, which is my next big dietary fan favorite. I’ve always had green tea but just lately realized it has properties of relaxation – Livestrong posts a great article explaining the hows and whys
…and before you go worrying about the caffeine, we’re way ahead of you! Green tea has significantly less caffeine than a cup of coffee or a glass of soda (Mayo Clinic, ya’ll!)
I’ll typically have a mug right before bed, Chamomile tea gives me a “pollen allergy” like reaction, so green tea has provided an awesome alternative. Not to mention, it has so many other life long health properties. I’ll drink any green tea, pretty much, but I especially like those with jasmine in them.
So, if you have the munchies but you’re trying to cut back on the Fritos try this, or your own version of it! Yum!