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Stop Thinking Like a 30-Something, Start Thinking For Yourself! May 4, 2015

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If you have’t noticed yet, I re-post a lot of Elite Daily articles. It’s a site I really admire because they have a lot of great things to say, especially to twenty-somethings. Most recently, I found this article on how those in their 20’s need to stop thinking like those in their 30’s. While I was reading it, I found myself disagreeing with many of the points that were made. I like reading different people’s views or opinions on life, most of all, how their experiences have shaped them, and I do think that there are always beneficial moments to take from everything you read. However, when we are encouraging or supporting those who are coming up after us, I think it’s very important to reinforce positive information for all types of people and all sorts of girls. We come from different backgrounds, upbringings and cultures, so there cannot be an end all be all of how to live your life, or grown-up or shape your future. So, here is my own version of Why 20-Something Women Need To Stop Thinking Like 30-Something Women (but instead, think for themselves!) –

We have all totally been “that girl”. That girl who had two too many glasses of Pinot and starts off on her pity party about never falling in love, having a baby too late in life, never making it in her career, “I just don’t get what’s wrong with me! How is Lindsay Lohan, who’s a total mess, famous and buying houses and cars while I’m an educated, smart, caring girl and I can’t even get a full-time job, or a boyfriend, or a nice apartment?!” I know I’ve been that girl. It’s senseless to worry about things you can’t control, so if you don’t have a boyfriend, go out and make great girlfriends. If you can’t afford your own place, make your room in the apartment you share with three people the best, sickest, coolest room ever! So what if you don’t have your dream job at 24, would you rather be 50 and have a job you’ve hated forever? Take your time to find what you love and what loves you back. So, in a sense of living your life and enjoying your twenties, I agree with the article. However, I don’t think we should diminish what our twenties teach us, and I don’t think we should keep our eye off the prize.

In the post, the author discusses looking back on your middle school and high school years. It’s true, I look back at my 16-year-old self and have a good giggle. I thought I knew everything about the world, I knew nothing. I do not feel this way about my early twenties. Sure, I’m not 30 or 40 or 50, but that shouldn’t matter. I do not want to discredit how much I’ve learned in my twenties, how much I grew, all the mistakes, fights, tears, horrible situations that shaped me, that made me strong. No, I do not look back on my 22-year-old self and giggle, I feel proud. I feel proud like a mother is proud of her child graduating college. I see a complete transformation throughout my twenties, I see myself fighting for things – for my career, for that apartment, for that relationship I never should have fought for. Your twenties are the best because they teach you so much about who you are, who you want to be, who you want or don’t want in your life. If anything, you come out of it refreshed, renewed and knowing that you still know nothing about the world and that’s not only okay, it’s great. It gives you a sense of open-mindedness you didn’t have when you were 14. That’s the difference. Your twenties are not to “live life on top of the bar” nor are they to be an ignorant baby, they are to learn everything! I want to encourage youth and new adults to just grasp life with both hands because the world is a huge place and if you’re ever going to get to know it, it’s in your twenties, big bad oopsies and all!

The article then concludes with when you should or should not worry about things, or if to worry about them at all. Do I think you should spend your 25th year of life hunting down your husband, absolutely not. However, not everyone wants to be a 35-year-old mom, the same way not everyone wants to be a 25-year-old mom. Some people want a lavish and blossoming career, some women want to be homemakers, some girls still don’t know what they want. Your twenties DO NOT need to be for one night stands, they can be if you want, but they can also be about finding good relationships, healthy relationships and yes, maybe even your husband. I met my to-be husband when I was 23. That doesn’t mean I was “searching” or concerned with having someone love me before I loved me, nor does it mean we got married after a year, we are still not married. What I’m saying is that different things work for different people, don’t stick yourself to a timeline but also don’t forget about it if that’s something that incredibly important to you and your life. Same goes for getting that dream job, or making money, or being around children, even if you don’t want to have them yet. Keep your eye on the prize, be open to changes and new “prizes”. If you aren’t the kind of person that wants to get black out drink in your twenties, you don’t have to but don’t put yourself into a box either.

Finally, when it comes to success we like to define that in terms of money, stability, jobs. These are all things that makes us feel like we did something right in life, but don’t confuse money with happiness. What I encourage is to find success in terms of what it means to you. For many people, making 6 figures doesn’t actually equate to being satisfied with their life. For many, working 45 hours a week is taking away from your spin class, your volunteering at a homeless shelter, your time with your family, things that make you you, things that makes you a happy human being. Find out what success means to you, and then go after that. You will reap the rewards, maybe today, maybe next year, or yes, maybe in your thirties. Do things that are worth it, and do things that aren’t worth it too, because maybe they’ll teach you something you didn’t know before.

My Mom Told Me One Day I’d like Yoga April 15, 2015

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yoga“Yoga comes with age. You’ll understand when you’re older”, she told me. I find yoga exhausting, they expect you to put your body in upside down, backwards positions, while channeling your inner Gandhi and then tell you to “just breathe”. An instructor once asked me, “Do you feel how your core is spiraling upwards with every breath?”, I looked over at my mom, she looked like a sleeping kitten in her “corkscrew prayer”. I am sure the question was rhetorical, so naturally, I answered “All I feel is pain?”. At the time, everyone laughed, but in all honesty, does anything but wisdom actually come with age? Yes.

The list of things my mother told me, that actually came true:

“One day, you will understand how to just sit and be”
I recently returned from my third trip to London. The first words out of my mouth were “I understand tea now.” I spent the majority of my time alone, sitting, with a pot of tea, and a little cup and saucer, watching other people, thinking about my life. I did not read, I did not play with my phone, I did not search for something to do, and I didn’t hate it. Other people didn’t bother me, they just were; My silence didn’t bother me, I just was. I now own my own tea pot (courtesy of a lovely boyfriend), and I have tea time almost daily, with no one but myself, for no one but myself.
When you are younger, you are doing everything to get somewhere – physically and metaphorically. You are running from job to job, store to store, and when you’re not running, you’re trying to figure out how to get another job, another paycheck, another date. There is little stillness in your early twenties. A big step in my adulthood, that I had long looked forward to was buying my own car. I now know you can drive to drive, and not to get somewhere. That doesn’t mean you are aimlessly driving around the neighborhood, it means that while you are on your way to the grocery store, you just drive – there is no reason to get there earlier, there is no reason not to be late. You can’t control road traffic, or train malfunctions, or your alarm clock breaking, so you just accept what you can’t change, and drive, and eventually you will get were you are going.

“Stop crying!”
I cry a lot. I cry a lot in just about every area of life except work. Unless my mommy is there, then I cry all the time. So when I was a teenager she would often look at me and yell “Stop crying!”. I thought it was because the act was annoying, loud, obnoxious, a pathetic attempt at getting my way, or simply happened so often the sincerity of it was totally false. I’m sure it was all of those things, but on a deeper level, it was a piece of guidance. We are human, and it’s healthy to have emotions, but you can’t just let them pour out of you like an overflowing bathtub. There is a time and a place to do those things, and at work, on the street, in a store, out to dinner, when you have company over, when you are cooking, are not those times. Learn to keep it in, and learn to let it out. Today, there are many times I want to start crying, like when I am accused of saying something I never said, or when my flight at the airport has been delayed for the third time, I can come very close to it, but I don’t, because I know that I can’t let myself fall apart right then.

“If you want food, pick up the phone and order it yourself”.
I have always hated ordering food. I don’t know why, I am not scared of making an appointment to get my haircut, but I am scared of calling to order food. When I was a teenager, if I wanted takeout, I had to order it for the whole family (you can imagine GrubHub is my heaven-sent). I never understood why, it wasn’t really fair. Over ten years later, I still hate calling to order food, but I do it, you know why? Because if I want food, I have to pick up the phone and order it. Mental tattoo. Perhaps I will always hate ordering food, but maybe if I was never forced to do it I would also be scared of calling to ask a question, or to book an appointment, or to ask for a status update. Maybe calling to order food is one step in the right direction of a million other things.

“You have to build your life without relaying on a man”
This was never hard for me, because I was used to fighting for myself. I never stopped fighting, just the things I had to fight for became harder to get as I got older. They say women need to make things happen without depending on a man, I say, you need to make things happen without depending on anyone. Do to an unfortunate series of events, I spent the majority of my early twenties relying on no one but me, having to take care of myself in every way. I paid my own bills, found my own apartments, learned to do things on my own – like taxes and buying insurance, and putting myself through school. This allowed, not just a man but, the right man to slip into place. It was clear from the start that I was my own person, with my own life, if you couldn’t handle that – man, women, friend, foe, then we weren’t a match. I love people in my life, I need them for emotional and physical support, but if I had to do it alone, I know I could. It has nothing to do with “a man”, it has to do with being able to do things on your own, and learning to be okay with it.

“Learn to control your reactions! Keep making that face, one day it will get stuck that way.”
My face still hasn’t gotten stuck “that way”, but there are scars in my past to prove that mama was right. If sixteen year olds were an i-phone, and attitude was an app, it would come pre-loaded. Unfortunately, the app doesn’t just get deleted when you turn twenty-one, and no one gives you a pass for being “young and stupid” anymore. I am more than positive that I lost many a job and created many an enemy with all the faces I once made. Shine them with a smile! = get every gig you ever wanted. In the words of, most recently, myself, “at work, I am a colorful butterfly who walks around spraying magically glitter on everyone!” Glitter. Not attitude, glitter.

“Follow your intuition”
If you keep trying and trying and trying to make something work, and you encounter every obstacle in its way, life is telling you, it’s not supposed to happen.
A dark alley that makes you feel comfortable will be safer than a well-lit street that makes your stomach turn backwards.

“Blood doesn’t make you family.”
Marriage does…just kidding! Some people are fortunate to have wonderful, large, carrying families. Many of us, myself included, have built their family for odds and ends, a button here, a glued piece of paper there. People from different backgrounds, different places, with different traditions and various views. I have the best family, because they love me and they support me, not because we share a gene pool. This is the number one reason I am where I am today, because even when I was alone, I was never alone.

I still hate yoga. I don’t know if I will ever like yoga, but it’s nice to know that your mom doesn’t wake up every morning of your childhood thinking of things to tell you just so you’ll believe them. I’m sure when I’m a mom, I will concoct lots of stories, simply to amuse myself, and see if my kids actually believe me. I am also sure I will say all the same things, and do all the same things my mother did, because I am a better human now than I was sixteen years ago – and it’s all because of stinkin’ yoga.

The Keys to Success March 14, 2015

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Learn to laugh at yourself. Invest in your future. Take responsibility. Have a thick skin. Don’t be afraid to take risks. 

What do all these things have in common? Success. Success isn’t something you stumble upon, it’s something you work towards. This article illustrates some of the top traits successful people have, and how to hone in on your own success! Whether it’s in class, at work, or in your personal growth, success is what you make of it!


Boxed Into Your Job February 24, 2015

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I DO NOT DO SALES. It’s like I need to tattoo it onto my forehead for people to hear me clearly. I’ve done sales once or twice in my life, I’ve been fairly good at it, so that’s all people hear, that’s all they see, that’s all I am to them.What am I really? I am a human being with ambition. I am a person who wants to be constantly challenged and if I’m giving the chance, I’ll prove that i can be trusted, and that I can exceed people’s expectations. What I am not is a one trick pony. What I am not is a person who can only be good at one thing.

glass_ceilingDo you ever feel like all your boss sees you as is what you are? For many of us, this is the case, whether it’s the profession we’ve chosen or the company we work for, we are only seen as the job we hold, we are only as good as our last day of work. There is this culture in American that if you work hard and long and always say yes, you’ll get a promotion and you’ll grow, however, for many jobs that’s just not true. If you’ve ever been labeled at your job, you understand. That new job opens up in a different department, and it’s something you know you’d just rock at, but when you apply your supervisors tell you that they’re really looking for someone with more specific experience, or that they are really happy with where you are now and a promotion in your division should open up soon. How are you supposed to respond to that? It’s both a compliment and in insult all at once. Better yet, the employers who do offer you a job, for something you did two years ago, because to them that is what you do. Despite how much you’ve grown as a person, despite your age, the place you are in your life, your expenses. Thanks for thinking I was good when we worked together 24 months ago, but now I’m even better, and I’m ready for something new! That internship was awesome when I was 22, I’m almost 25 now and I don’t want to be in the same office space as someone learning how to refill a stapler.

Hiring professionals will tell you to get some experience under your belt, do some volunteering, work for a non-profit, get a portfolio going by doing work for friends but this isn’t that kind of article. This is the kind of article that screams “I know! what the hell!”, this is the kind of article that gives the middle finger to all your past employers who felt you were good enough as you were and didn’t want to give you a chance. Sometimes, life isn’t about sitting down and looking at the bright side, it’s about getting a bottle of wine and whinnying about it.

However, there is always a time to look at the bigger picture, even if it’s not a bright one (…and maybe only after two glasses of wine). Let’s say you got that promotion, let’s say you took that job you wanted, would your boss be any different? Would they see you as someone who deserved it, would they acknowledge your talents? Sometimes what we don’t get is a sign of something we don’t need, everything happens for a reason even if at the times it never seems fair. The reward is greater with greater risk, so if there is something you really want out of life, keep working to get it, it won’t come easy, it will make you envious of others who seem to have everything you want, but when you finally get that dream job, everything you went through will be so worth it! Plus…you’ll have wine the entire time, so, it can’t be all bad, now can it.

Why You Need a Vacation February 13, 2015

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Vacation; it’s something we can do without. It’s a luxury. It’s a self-indulgence. So, if we don’t take one for a couple of years, we’ll be fine. After all, that money should be going towards our savings, our student loans, our car payments, or just under our mattress for a rainy day, right? Wrong. Here’s why you should take a vacation at least once a year, and how to do it.

Science has shown that in men, a risk of a heart attack increases by 30% if they opt out of a vacation, that number increases to 50% in women. We hear that and we think, okay, that’s something I’ll worry about when I’m 40 and by then, I’ll have the finances to take a vacation annually…but what if you won’t? Will that be the never-ending excuse? Statistics also tell us that, not only do American’s receive less vacation days than most employees of other countries, but fewer and fewer Americans are using all their days. Perhaps there’s a feeling of guilt, being away from the job, perhaps our employers put that pressure on us, that idea that every e-mail needs to be answered, every phone call needs to be returned and there’s no good reason to abandon clients for a week while you’re sipping on mai-tais in the Bahamas. Just like a sprained ankle needs rest and healing, your mind and spirit need quiet time too. Today, it seems like you’re invincible, perfect skin, flawless hair, a work ethic for days and the energy of a small child but the truth is, if we don’t take a break every now and then we’re going to spiral out of control and soon that super hero ability will turn into exhaustion.

Blog-Vacation-CartoonTaking a vacation does not mean going to your parents house and sitting on Facebook all day or simply taking days off but staying at home – vacation means a total change of pace, in all ways. Log off, shut down and take yourself off the grid. Do not check your work e-mail and make it clear that you won’t be available while you’re away. You don’t have to eliminate yourself from the world but rather than sitting by the pool and checking twitter leave the phone in the room and check it once a day if you want. Even being in your humble abode can causes stresses, the things that need to be cleaned or get things done, or even worse the stress of boredom which can result in binge watching TV or eating unhealthy. Get out of town!

Sure, vacation can be pricey and that’s what stops many people from taking them. Check for “off-season” deals. For example, the high season in places like Cancun starts in January, so check for flight and hotel deals in December. Much of this information is available on sites like Tripadvisor. Also, check alternate methods of travel, taking Amtrak is typically much less expensive than airfare and it can be part of your adventure! Bring friends, four people splitting the cost of a room, cab, and dinners is much better than one or two! You can also combine trips with other things you have planned, if you’re already going to your friend’s wedding in LA, come before or after and spend some additional time relaxing, you’ll be buying the airfare anyway! Use points and miles from previous travel to help alleviate costs.

Most importantly, don’t feel bad and don’t allow yourself to think about home while you’re away. Vacations don’t need to break the bank but if you’re spending the money, make sure you enjoy yourself and don’t come back even more anxious than you left. Vacations open your mind, they let you evaluate life and see things from afar once you’re removed from the situation. They can also help you make important life decisions that you may have been dwelling on for a while. Allow yourself to take a vacation, mentally, emotionally and physically. You’ll come back refreshed and happier!

It’s not fiction, it’s fact! For more studies and information on taking vacations read these great articles:
Why You Need To Take a Vacation Even When You Can’t Afford One: http://www.inc.com/kevin-daum/why-you-need-to-take-a-vacation-even-when-you-can-t-afford-one.html

Vanishing American Vacation: http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/vanishing-american-vacation

Take a Vacation: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/28/take-a-vacation_n_5701215.html

The Benefits of Being an Adult January 15, 2015

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They say that with great power comes great responsibility. Well, I supposed that’s true, but I’m guessing many of us, myself included, wouldn’t really consider themselves to have great power, right? Wrong. Power has been feed to us as this majestic, magnificent thing, but the truth is as an adult you have a lot of power. The power to make decisions, the power to speak your mind, the power to have things, buy things, the power to help others. So with all the privilege and freedom being an adult comes with, you have also responsibility.

Responsibility can mean many things to many people; it can be taking care of others – children, pets, loved ones; it can be making sure you take care of yourself – support yourself, pay your bills, find a nice place to live. It can mean being successful – buying your first car, getting married, getting that promotion you’ve been working for. No matter how you define responsibility for yourself, know that being an adult comes with certain expectations, understanding that the world is bigger than you.evasion of responsibility comic

Responsibility means having the right to be the bigger person – perhaps something has happened at work that you’re not pleased with or perhaps part of your job has been reallocated to a different department. You can voice your concerns, you can state your position, but at the end of the day if your bosses decide something over you, take it with grace. Don’t huff and puff around the office, don’t continue to bring it up, don’t speak under your breath about how stupid you think it is. Why? Because you can’t be empowered if you don’t carry yourself in a respectful way, not just respectful to others, but respect to yourself.

Responsibility means taking the time to do something you don’t want to do, because it will help the greater good. Sure, tackling world peace is a good place to start, but smaller obstacles are too. Maybe your family is having a hard time getting together for the holiday, going out of your way to pick someone up from the airport, or help them search for an airline ticket, being outside of just your world. Explaining to the marketing department you’d like to stay late and help them work on the promotion because you want your clients to get the best deal. Whatever that something extra might be, it’s your responsibility to help achieve it. If you don’t do it, then you don’t have the right to complain about it.

Responsibility means dancing like no one is watching. It’s taking care of yourself because if you don’t who will? Sure, we all have parents, and significant others, and friends but if you’re going to take it upon yourself to work two jobs, finish school, make it to every friends birthday party and still find time to go to the gym, then you’re going to have to find time to lay in bed and watch a movie. Especially when you’re in your early twenties, it’s hard to say no. So, if you’re not going to say no, then make the time for yourself. It’s your job to make sure you is the best you you can be!

Being an adult comes with so many benefits – living alone, not having a curfew, voting, spending your own money on what you want when you want, dating and partying, so with all this privilege remember to not act like a baby. Just like with every job out there, you can’t have only the good parts but have to deal with the tough parts too. However, the thing about the tough parts, is that they make you tough so when you look back and you remember how hard some of it may have been, you can also be proud that you took the higher road, did the right thing, and you’ve turned out to be pretty A-okay, if not pretty awesome.

Making Life Choices…and Facing Hilarious Realities January 8, 2015

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Check out this great post about the Catch-22’s of being in your twenties! Grab a glass of wine, and laugh your bad day away – The 20 Catch-22s Of Being In Your 20’s, by Lauren Martin at the Elite Daily.

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When You Do What You’ve Always Done, You Get What You’ve Always Gotten January 4, 2015

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“When you do what you’ve always done you get what you’ve always gotten.”, I’m not sure who said it first, but I sure as hell remember the first time I heard it. To me, this statement made so much sense, it was so logical, so true, but somehow so hard to see when you were on the “doing” end of it. It’s very easy to get lost in the shuffle, or drown in your own life of stress, and papers, and obligations. So, to answer so many of your questions – “What happened to DLIH?!”, this is the answer.

The great thing about the writers of this website is that we are growing; we are growing together, we are growing independently, we are growing with you, and with this site and,  in turn, things are changing. While things do change for the better, there is a give and take, it’s a dynamic process. We were just trying to stay afloat in our lives, we were working as hard as we possibly could to find five minutes to write a quick article and what happened was weeks without a post, days without an update and just an overall stress about DLIH instead of the pleasure it had always been. So after much discussion, and a difficult decision, we decided the best thing to do was to take a break, a deep breath and start looking forward, not to the past. In 2012, we wrote an article about Taking a Comma , well, let’s say we took a page break ;).

the-roaring-20sThe great news is, we’re back! We’re working hard to bring back the articles you love so much, we’re ready to listen to your thoughts and fears and offer what we can from life experience, humor, a little witty intuition to make your twenties suck a little less. When this website started, we were little 20-somethings, just trying to figure it out, now we’re grown-up, and big, and see our early-twenties friends and we want to help them and mold them into awesome adults! Evolution is awesome! Change is great! It’s not always easy, and the moral of the story is that you shouldn’t be afraid to tell everyone you need a minute to figure it out.

DLIH will be a little different, but that’s because we’re a little different – We used to talk about surviving your twenties, now, we’re living them, hell, we’re almost out of them! There won’t be as much “how to”, or “what if”, but so much more information, fun times and just general getting through life tidbits about being healthy, happy, and habitually phenomenal.

Follow Your Dreams…No Matter When July 9, 2014

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I remember when a guy I was sort-of dating first introduced me as “she used to be a dancer”. It’s a good thing he didn’t see my face, because I think it was a mix of shock and complete anger. Yes, this is no longer my career. Yes, I now have expanded my resume. Yes, it’s not what my business cards say. But I, in every way, shape and form am still a dancer! It’s a part of my being, my personality, who I am and how I think. Still, I had to face the reality, it was hard to call me that, when I wasn’t spending 10am-8pm in a dance studio anymore.

Remember when you were seven years old and asked what you wanted to be when you grew up? One week it was a veterinarian, the next it was a fireman, then a gymnast who would go out he Olympics and also a mommy or a daddy, or a horse farmer, or a purple rainbow catcher, or a pineapple trader. Well, your dreams in your twenties are just like that, but more along the lines of wanting to make good money, have a great apartment, like your job, have a comforting relationship, make awesome friends, have a stellar career, and so forth. The enchilada, the whole damn enchilada. Then, once you start getting all these things, something really unexpected happens, and you realize how unhappy you are. At twenty-three nothing seems grander than a fancy apartment with your significant other and a dog, but sometimes what we do to get those things means giving up something else. Sometimes, the things we give up are the most important.

turned-cants-into-cans-dreams-into-plansIf you’re lucky enough your career and passion are one in the same, but for many of us, that’s not that case and we have to make the time and effort to follow our dreams. I always thought that going back to dancing seemed futile later in life. After getting a degree, building a professional name for myself, creating a relationship and making money. It felt like it would only be a hobby and not a focus, but slowly, I began to feel dull, lifeless, like I was missing a huge part of myself. I felt like someone had grabbed my very arm off my body and run away with it. I realized that I had been working so hard at life, I had forgotten what was truly important, being happy. There are going to be a lot of years in your life you can’t be truly happy and truly successful, and sacrifice is important, but once you are on the right trajectory, and you are starting to achieve normalcy again, it’s important to feel like you again. If you were always a marathon runner, pick a 5K to train for; if you used to teach acting too little kids, volunteer at a day camp for a couple of weeks. Getting back into the swing can be hard, overwhelming, and time-consuming; it can actually be scary, when you aren’t sure of the outcome or even know if you’re still capable of doing whatever it is you do, but once you put on that dance shoe, or take that photograph, or cook that first desert, it’s like you feel like you’re home.

The career of a dancer starts at about seventeen, and by twenty-seven you’re already considered old. Had I known at seventeen what I know now, perhaps I would have made some different choices, but you can’t regret the mistakes or decisions you made because they lead you to where you are today. You would not be going back to what you love, had you never left it. For many, discovering what they love happens in their twenties, a simple art class or team building retreat can open up new worlds for people. Now is the time, before kids, before mortgages, before there’s another college to pay for, to get into a habit of following your dreams too. Be realistic, you’re never going to be an NBA player, but there are plenty of leagues and teams out there looking for a good shot!

“She turned her can’ts into cans, and her dreams in plans.” What I’ve learned, which I wish I had known at ten, and sixteen, and twenty, and twenty-two was that the most important thing in life is to have dreams. They may not bubble to the surface in the exact way you thought, but the more you learn about life, the more ways you find to make them work. The only person who can do that is you, so never let go of your dreams, and never let anyone take them away from you. In whatever form they may come, they are yours, and yours to concur.

July Needs Some Ketch-Up June 27, 2014

Posted by doinglaundryinheels in Beauty, Dating, GoodGuys File, Health and Fitness, Jobs and Work, Ketch-up, Life Lessons/Growing Up, Real World, Relationships, Review.
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It’s KETCH-UP WEEK at Doing Laundry in Heels! June has been a rollercoaster of articles, SK traveling, Pascal resurfacing, and even with all that, it still needs some ketchup! So here’s what’s been on the grill this month and what’s been hot!

The Real Life Rules of Respect and Honesty – By Pascal
Respect and honesty are funny things. As far as my experience goes, everyone wants to be respected, and really, most people think they deserve respect in one manner or another, but what are the rules on respect? In the same vein, “honesty is always the best policy” and “relationships are based on honesty”…right?…Read more!

Turning Pretend into Reality
Many of us are very hard on ourselves. If we’ve felt like we’ve battled life alone – we are constantly trying to find the next level of achievement. If we came from wealth, or help, or a life that was created to be easy – we want to prove everyone wrong. If you’ve always been a winner – failure is the ultimate defeat. If you’ve rarely been a winner – then winning is the only thing you strive for. Most of us fall into one of these categories, if not a couple, so with people like us, we’re always searching for the next thing, reaching for the next level, wanting to prove to the world that we made it…Read more!

Detaching From The Situation
“You’re a horrible person.”

“You did the opposite of a good job.”

“What made you think this was a good idea?”

“You’re seriously under performing.”

Things we’ve all probably heard at one point or another. Whether it’s coming from a boss, or co-worker, a friend, a parent or a partner, it’s the worst thing to hear and it’s shocking. When you’re sitting at the opposite end of a table and someone looks you dead in the eye and starts telling you that you’re, basically, worthless, your first reaction is shock. In your mind you’re thinking “What is happening right now? Is this for real?”…Read more!

Simple as Sugar – A Review about Simple Sugars Skincare! (Yum)

Anyone who has spent more than ten minutes with me knows that I have an enormous sweet tooth, probably more so than most other people on the planet. If there’s dessert, I’m there, but I recently found a product that is as sweet as sugar (literally!) but rather than making you breakout and plump up, it does something good for your body…Read more!

The Sides of Needing Space – this month’s GoodGuys File
There are two types of people out there, those who need space and those who do not. Most people like to think they’re one kind, but are probably the other. So, what happens when you’re in a relationship and spending the majority, if not almost all, your time with the same person? What happens you ask? Fights, tension, lashing out or snapping for no good reason. Human beings weren’t meant to be alone, but they weren’t meant to be together 24/7 either. Finding the balance in a relationship is a fine line, but it isn’t an invisible one…Read more!

Oh…and by the way, WE TURNED FOUR IN JUNE! and there was lots of cake!


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